Seven Conversation Starters

The conversations that feel too scary to start are exactly what your relationship needs

What if one question could unlock years of things left unsaid?

These 7 research-backed conversation starters help couples move past "how was your day?" to the deeper connections you're both craving.

These are simple questions, without therapy jargon, that create space for honesty, intimacy, and real understanding.

Skip the surface-level small talk.

What’s Included:

✓ 7 carefully crafted conversation starters that work even when you're feeling disconnected

✓ The "when and how" guide for each question so you know exactly when to use them

✓ Real examples of how these conversations unfold (so you know what to expect)

✓ Tips for staying curious, not defensive when the conversations get vulnerable

✓ A bonus question for couples ready to go even deeper

Ready to start the conversations that matter?

Get this free email series to deepen the conversations you have with your partner.

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  • Todays session was extremely helpful in providing us with the terminology of what we are both going through and to assist with align us with the tools that are require to balance the direction and guidance in order for us to start working on the repairing that is required and the work that is needed towards our relationship. We both feel extremely comfortable with sharing and opening up each others wounds so we start focus on the healings, we both can can that your approach is helping us develop boundaries and accepting each other.

    RB

  • "I was skeptical at first. Therapy felt like it was going to be all 'talk about your feelings' and no real progress. But what we found here was way deeper. This wasn’t about blaming or fixing each other—it was about understanding what happens inside us when we feel hurt, overwhelmed, or disconnected. It’s hard to describe, but I can feel the difference in my body now when something shifts. We’ve built more safety, and that’s what’s helped us reconnect."

    ES

  • "We came in totally disconnected like we were roommates more than partners. We didn’t even know how to talk to each other without it turning into something tense. This space gave us room to be honest, even when it was uncomfortable. What surprised us most was how much of our dynamic was tied to old pain and survival habits. Gordon helped us unearth those patterns and work with them. We’re still learning, but for the first time in years, we feel like a team again."

    AW